Insomnia has definitley settled in for a long, extended, and not to mention, uninvited stay in my apartment. How can a person be so sleepy but not be able to sleep longer than, say, 30 minutes? Perhaps I am anticipating a little too much. My husband as well.
I've been thinking a lot here lately about what I want to do with my life. Career-wise, that is. The plan is to register for online classes in January and continue with school through his deployment. Granted, I have a whole lot of bs classes I have to take, I'm nowhere near ready to choose a major. Everybody tells me to pick nursing or something along those lines, but do I really want to wipe butts and clean bed pans? (Yeah, I know it isn't all about that... But everybody has to do it starting out...) I do want to help people though. I think I could get past the nastiness and inconviences such as those, but the problem is deciding if I want to.

Why do people always wish time away? When I was young, I always wished to be older. Prayed and prayed for my 16th birthday, then my 18th, and lastly my 21st. I was full of expectiations, only to be let down. I couldn't exactly tell you what it was that I was expecting a number to change, but in my head, it was supposed to change everything. So, well, here I am, 21 years old and I still feel like I am 16. Lost and confused. Still trying to figure out who the hell I really am. Sounds so cliche, right? I'm not sure what it is that I am wanting out of my life, but it sure is a hell of a lot more than this. (Minus my marriage, of course)
I'm ready to weave a lot of people out of my life. No, I won't talk shit about them && pretend I am within good standings with them. I'll merely just distance myself away. It works out easiest that way.

Ever watched or listened to something that just set your mind into deep thought? Something that just makes you analyze everything in your life? Where you are, what your doing or in my case, what you haven't been doing, and just simply who you are, who you have become?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years? I've heard this question dozens of times. My current mind set is where were you 5 years ago? HAve you achieved the goals you set for yourself? Are you the type of person you wanted to be? Or are you still set in your old ways, even though you swear you've changed? If not, what are the reasons? What's holding you back? The answers usually are quite simple. And believe it or not, they are very easy to change, well, sometimes.

Double-edged swords. I despise them ever so. Decision making can be quite difficult, especially when regardless of the choice you make, there are some pretty shitty consequences. I must say, these are the times that being a kid again would be nice.

Deployment.

I found an unsent letter the hubbie had written to me while he was in basic. The time setting was very close to the end of it all, when in just a week or so, I would finally be in his arms again. It brought a rush of emotions to me. (What's new, right?) And I know I've said it before, but I do not know how I am going to get through this deployment. I remember how alone I felt. But at least I knew he was safe. I'm hearing all of these horror stories about Afghanastan && it doesn't help my overanalyzing mind. Is it bad that I am that selfish? I do not want to go through it and even more so, I don't want my husband subjected to all that he is going to be exposed to. (More than any individual should ever have to see/do) I hear from other wives how different he will be, how many habits he will pick up, and of course, how he will never be the same. I don't want that for him. I don't wish that for anybody. I watch him everyday... He's always joking, acting like a geek, laughing, smiling... Is that all going to change? What is he going to be like?... I've never been more scared of anything in my life. Ugh. What a whiner I must sound like.

I have to say I think its ironic how things play out. Being a small-town girl, I prayed and desired to move far, far away to a brand new place where everything was different. Once I got here, all I look for are things that are familiar to me. Things that remind me of home. Even the type of people that I meet here. The food. All of it. Maybe I'm not the type of person who accepts change too well? I always thought I was. Maybe its all about adjusting. I think I fight it most of the time. Not too sure why. I do it kinda inadvertantly.
I was talking to a friend yesterday. Her husband went to basic with my husband, they are in seperate companies, but hang out and talk when they can. She isn't wanting to go home during their upcoming deployment and inquired about us getting a place together here. Getting jobs, going to school, and splitting the bills. Its exactly what I truely wanted to do when I got here. Now I'm second guessing it. Not to mention the husband is dead set against it. (Granted, I understand his reasoning.) However, I just keep pondering over it. This is a once in a lifetime experience. I could always go home and visit, right? It may not seem like that big of a deal. It may even be quite simple, but we all know, I make nothing simple. I have to weigh every single pro and every single con.
I was going through Troy's packing list today. Ensuring he had every item he was going to need for his upcoming trip. And it hit me... Hard. I have exactly 4 months left with him. I realized that I am truely not ready to be without him again. I know it isn't healthy. Your husband is supposed to be a part of your life, not your entire life. But he is. He is my reason for everything. The only person that keeps me going. He is my life, my best friend, && my, well, everything. Anybody gone through a deployment? How do you get through it? I don't want my life to stop at a stand-still once again. And I know I'm the only person who has control of it, but without him here, I swear, I can't keep myself together. Or maybe I can, it's just hard. Very hard.

Its been quite some time since I've updated this thing. The very last post described how miserable and upset I was cause of my situation, well now I'm finally back in the arms of my wonderful husband && it is absolutely amazing!! I think perhaps I love him a little too much than its humanely possible. Things are so different now. The talk of his deployment has truthful spread a new light on things. We don't fight over trivial things anymore. We focus on whats important && that is our time together. Granted disagreements and arguments occur, but they are over and done with quite quickly. For anybody that knows us, that was never the case before. I'm so thankful that we found each other and that we are smart enough to realize how lucky we are to have what we have.
Starting our life new in Hawaii has definitely been a completely different experience. We both wanted to get away from home more than anybody. I don't think either of us truely realized how moving 5,000 miles away would impact us. I've enjoyed almost every minute of it. I'm definitley taking the time to see and experience all that I can before our short little time here is up, but missing family and friends back home can be a bit overwhelming at times, for the both of us. Then of course the cost to visit home is completely outrageous. One thing it has done is taught us to rely on each other. It has definitely done nothing but bring us closer and make our relationship stronger.
Living in Hawaii, now thats something else. Just like any place that you live, it has its pros and its cons. Moving here, I thought the one thing that I would absouletely have no problem with was satisfying my appetite. Boy was I wrong on that one. While there is some very nice and scrumptious places to eat here, there are plenty more that aren't so great. But on top of that, there is simply a lot of repetiveness. Rice, BB&Q, && billions of other Asian foods. Everywhere you turn. It gets a little old after a while. Not too much variety, unless you want to head to Honolulu every single outing.
The bugs are horrible. And when I say bugs, I mean bugs! Centepedes, Flying cockroaches, oh && even geckos. The cockroaches aren't your normal roaches. It doesn't matter whether your home is completley spotless && clean, or whether you live like a slob, they always seem to find a way to present themselves. && they are HUGE!! Speaking from being a devout hater of bugs, this isn't good for me. Not in the least bit.
There's so much more to say... Perhaps in a later post... <3