MILspouse Friday Fill-In #35

Surprise, surprise I'm a day late at doing this, but here goes anyway :)

1. What is your must have gadget?

Its simple -- my Iphone. When the things came out, I couldn't stand them. Now, I use mine for everything.

2. How does your adult life compare to what you imagined it would be like when you were a little kid?

To put it lightly, my life is nothing like what I thought it would be. Granted, I always dreamt of getting married & having kids but I pictured college first & the military definitley wasn't included in the equation. However, I can't say that I regret a thing. A few things I would do a little differently aka school, but I can honestly say I have no regrets.

3. What is your favorite chocolate recipe?

I'm a sucker for no-bake cookies, so for now I'll put that. I'm currently working on my baking/cooking skills -- which need MAJOR work :) (one thing I intend on improving during this deployment)

4. How do you deal with military life when it gets to be too much or too hard?

There isn't a real cookie-cutter answer for this. My "too hard" days are just now beginning, therefore I'm still learning. I just plan on taking things one day at a time -- screaming if I need to, crying, laughing, whatever it is that may temporarily make me feel a little bit better.

5. What piece of advice would you give a new Military spouse facing their first deployment?

Hmm... Give me a year or so. I'll get back to you on this.

I'm in a funk.
This week has simply been a funk. I had one good day. Fully motivated & all. Ever since, I've been nothing but blah. It really needs to be publicized how crazy pre-deployment can make one. On top of hormones, I feel like a crazy woman. On cloud 9 one moment, sulking the next. Whoo. It'll get better I know. My biggest issue is I need to deal with things better -- more positive. That's my newest goal. We will see how it works out. Somethings just feel bigger than me & at times, its a whee bit overwhelming.

Anywho, I found the following on MannLand5's site & thought it would be fun to start so here goes :)

The Q & A --

1. If you won the title of Miss America, what would your platform be?
This one is a toughy -- there's a lot I stand for. But I'm going to go traditional & practical -- world peace. How many problems would that seriously solve?
2. Outdoorsy or indoorsy?
A mixture of the two -- if it's warm outside, I'm up for practically anything outdoorsy... If it's cold, you can forget it.
3. Pajama's out in public... classy or tres tacky?
I'm going to go with tacky on this one -- even if I'm semi-guilty of it on one occasion or another.
4. Nook, kindle, book?
At the moment, just a good ol' book. Buuuut I'd really love to try out the nook. :)
5. Would you rather wear the same outfit for a week or not brush your teeth for a week?
Hmm.. Depending on my activities, prolly the same outfit. I cannot handle not brushing my teeth or taking a shower.
6. What's your favorite blog at the moment?
Take A Walk With Me -- Sara Milo
7. Lately I've been daydreaming about....?
My soldier's homecoming (even though he hasn't quite left yet...) & the arrival of our baby boy... Hence the day when we will all 3 be together & be able to be a family. Its only 365 + days away... Only...

It is true. Sometimes you just have to cry.
I thought I was getting better -- accepting the fact that he's leaving, focusing on the positives of this upcoming year... My outlook on things was looking up. Don't get me wrong, not the smallest part of me wants/wanted him to leave, I was just trying to embrace the whole "accept what you can and cannot change" type of thing. Then it hit me. Once again. Out of nowhere. Laying in bed, my mind began to race, he turned over to put his arm around me & the tears began to pour. Ever since, its been a nightly event. I can't eat, granted I try. Sleep, well, its just impossible. Blah. Anybody know any miracle cures to clear ones mind?

It Don't Matter Where I Lay My Head Tonight, Your Arms Feel Like Home...

Nights like tonight. Those simple, routine nights. Him playing his video games, me relaxing on my laptop. A kiss in between rounds. The little smiles across the room. I'm going to miss. My gosh, I'm going to miss them so very much. I've realized the fights are going to happen. I was almost certain they wouldn't. Everyone else may get into those pre-deployment fights perhaps even fights during deployment, I thought, but not us. We're different. Ha. Bull. We're human just like everybody else & stress/fear/worrying has a way of getting the best out of everybody at some point & let me tell you, this past little bit has been rough. Me, with my wonderful crazy woman hormones, & his short-edged temper, needless to say, we've bumped heads quite a lot. But then those little things occur, a wise-crack, someone laughs, or whatever & all is well again. That's how I know we will be okay. I was desperatley trying to keep things to myself -- if he would upset me by doing something or by doing nothing at all (I am pregnant -- he can look at me the 'wrong' way sometimes & my world turns upside down & i'm in misery lol) I wouldn't say a word for I didn't want to argue at all before he leaves. Genius thought, right? Instead, things just built up and I'd explode eventually. Bad idea. If a fight occurs, I'm just going to let it happen. Talk calmly of course & make every attempt to end it quickly, but the fact of the matter is, I think at times we need to let all of that negative energy release. Perhaps at each other isn't the best possible outlet, but it happens. Doesn't mean we love each other any less.

"This life ain't the fairytale we both thought it would be but I can see your smiling face as its staring back at me... I know we both see these changes now... I know we both understand somehow..." -- 3 doors down

I simply can't believe how fast time is flying by. Literally, it is just zipping right on past. This has already been one busy month. Pre-inspection for moving out tomorrow. The one thing I am not sad to leave behind is Hawaii Military Housing. Holy cow, these places are something else!! Can we say never dealing with on-post housing here again? Yes, yes we can. Hopefully they don't make the attempt to charge us an arm and a leg for their cheap housing. Hell, $2011 for rent should cover EVERY possible damage out there. (& trust me, we haven't vandalized a thing -- we do take care of the place we live in...) Anywho, wish me all the luck with them tomorrow. Something tells me I am going to need it.

Ok. Sigh. Take a deep breath. One day at a time... One day at a time... Deployment, you are almost here & it already feels as if you are winning. I already hate you.
Now, with that being said...
I'm reading this book. Or attempting to, I get distracted way too easily it seems to finish anything. (Should make going back to school quite the challenge) It was recommended to me by an old friend back when she was pregnant. Belly Laughs by Jenny McCarthy. Granted, she is not the best writer by a long shot, she's blunt & totally tells it exactly how it is. She covers it all -- the gruesome details to the funny ones. I'm loving it. If your pregant or want kids someday -- read it. Its a good laugh.
Well, not too much is going on at the moment. A lot of bs his unit is pulling has got the both of us pretty upset. I'm really disliking the army at the moment. All I can and will say, I will be very happy & relieved once his term is up. Although if he may re-enlist, I'll support him 100%, but it wouldn't be breaking my heart if he decided enough was enough & we put it behind us. I actually enjoy the military life, oddly enough. But the constant bs him & his guys are put through, (things that are COMPLETELY avoidable... I'm not referring to those that are beyond anybodys control) is more than I think is fair, especially when they are all deploying so soon.